First meeting with your potential partner can be extremely nerve wrenching. You want to say the right things otherwise the meeting could turn out to a drag for all. The fear of being rejected by the girl or having to reject the girl drives all men crazy. You may even have practiced conversing with the girl you are about to meet over and over again in your imagination. Most men having gone through this process will tell you to be as normal and casual as possible; however, we know that it is easier said than done. Here are some basic questions that you could ask the girl on your first meeting without sounding too inquisitive.
Hope this place is comfortable for you?
Ok, this is not a ‘I want to know you better’ kind of a question, but first of all you need to make the bride-to-be comfortable and at ease.
So what do you do?
Generally with this question, the girl will tell you about her educational qualifications or professional profile. After she is done you can tell her about yours.
What are your likes or dislikes?
If the girl seems clueless about what to say in response to this question, you could share your likes and dislikes and then ask her again about hers.
Ask her more specific details about her likes and dislikes in continuation to the above question
This would show that you are interested in what she has to say. Like for example if she says that ‘I like to read book’ then you could ask ‘what kind of books, fiction, chick lits and so on.’
Tip: You have to understand that this is not an interview session, so you can’t just keep on asking question. ‘You’ have to be present in those questions or conversations. This is a time where you cannot pretend to be someone else. Sooner or later she will realize. Be yourself.
By now the ice would have broken a bit, so now you can actually ask more relevant question.
Would you like to work or be a housewife after marriage?
You can twist this question according to your family culture. If your family does not allow their daughter in law’s to work then you can ask her that ‘You know in my family girls are not allowed to work, so would you be ok with that?’ You can also tell her what your are expectations are in this regard.
Do you like to cook?
This is a very cheesy question, but we all know that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach and this theory might apply to you as well. Even on this date most men want their wives to cook well.
Would you be able to adjust in my joint family?/Would you be able to manage the household on your own since we would not be living with my family?
You can tell her more about you family or your lifestyle before asking this question.
Your decision to get married is your own or is their some parental pressure?
Before taking things further you should know that the bride to be is ready to get married and her decision to meet you is not influenced by family pressure. If she is meeting you on her own free will things are going well. If she is not then you need to know why.
What not to say in the first meeting
Hope this place is comfortable for you?
Ok, this is not a ‘I want to know you better’ kind of a question, but first of all you need to make the bride-to-be comfortable and at ease.
So what do you do?
Generally with this question, the girl will tell you about her educational qualifications or professional profile. After she is done you can tell her about yours.
What are your likes or dislikes?
If the girl seems clueless about what to say in response to this question, you could share your likes and dislikes and then ask her again about hers.
Ask her more specific details about her likes and dislikes in continuation to the above question
This would show that you are interested in what she has to say. Like for example if she says that ‘I like to read book’ then you could ask ‘what kind of books, fiction, chick lits and so on.’
Tip: You have to understand that this is not an interview session, so you can’t just keep on asking question. ‘You’ have to be present in those questions or conversations. This is a time where you cannot pretend to be someone else. Sooner or later she will realize. Be yourself.
By now the ice would have broken a bit, so now you can actually ask more relevant question.
Would you like to work or be a housewife after marriage?
You can twist this question according to your family culture. If your family does not allow their daughter in law’s to work then you can ask her that ‘You know in my family girls are not allowed to work, so would you be ok with that?’ You can also tell her what your are expectations are in this regard.
Do you like to cook?
This is a very cheesy question, but we all know that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach and this theory might apply to you as well. Even on this date most men want their wives to cook well.
Would you be able to adjust in my joint family?/Would you be able to manage the household on your own since we would not be living with my family?
You can tell her more about you family or your lifestyle before asking this question.
Your decision to get married is your own or is their some parental pressure?
Before taking things further you should know that the bride to be is ready to get married and her decision to meet you is not influenced by family pressure. If she is meeting you on her own free will things are going well. If she is not then you need to know why.
What not to say in the first meeting
- Do not discuss past relationships, neither about any of you.
- Do not ask talk to her about money matters
- Don’t try to be overly romantic, praise her but don’t go overboard
- Do not tell her about the never ending household chores you have in mind for her
- Do not say anything negative about her looks or dressing sense, save your suggestions for next meeting
- Do not make fun of her in any way, you are allowed to crack jokes only they should not be directed at her.
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